Saturday, January 29, 2011

30-Year-Old Virgin

Yes, I am a 30-year-old virgin.  And proud of it.

When my friends ask how on earth I've accomplished this feat,  I jokingly respond, "Well, I don't know what I'm missing.!"  You know what?  I've got a pretty good idea I'm missing something pretty spectacular.

But what I'm gaining is even more spectacular.

I've never had to worry about unplanned parenthood, STDs, shaving my legs (or maybe I don't worry about that because I had laser hair removal), moving too quickly in a relationship, giving a man the wrong idea, the "morning after" regrets, the strong emotional attachment that develops, UTIs, birth control prescriptions, the list goes on.

I have gained self-control, respect for myself and the men I date, respect for my body, modesty, and purity of mind and body.

You can probably think of a few reasons I have ended up in this "situation": unattractive, SSA, socially awkward, no lust, lack-of confidence,  lack of quality men to date, and the list continues. 

I assure you, my decision is entirely my choice. And, I assure you, I have had my fare share of temptation.  Most importantly, I have a strong faith in my Heavenly Father and the standards my choice of religion -The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints - has set forth before me.

I look forward to sharing this part of myself with my husband some day.  Not to sound too 1950's, but I can't think of a more amazing gift.  I will continue to uphold my standards.  I'm in no hurry.  I've lasted this long...

1 comment:

Willem said...

Good to read this post from a fellow virgin. So much energy !
At 35 i think i`m kind of apathetic about my situation at the moment. Although i`m a guy i do relate to what you`re going through and for me my virginity brings a lot of clarity to the way i view life. I`m not perfect but i think my love is pure.
Keep up the good work ... and keep telling your friends what they`ve missed out on.