Doesn't almost everything in life require a commitment to realize the maximum potential of results?
If you commit yourself to a fitness and diet regime, would it do good if you only participated in that one day per week? A little, but in order to see the full impact, you would have to submerse yourself.
If you commit yourself to continuing education, what is better, one day per week, or fully enrolling?
At work, if you begin a project, but only work on it two days per week, wouldn't you be so much better off committing fully until you are finished?
Look at the chart below, which I pulled from a project management site - higher involvement increases commitment naturally and visa-verse.
In my opinion, so goes with relationships. I've been accused of being a serial monogamist. The thing is, once someone has my heart, I have a very hard time trying to get to know other fabulous young men. I am a full advocate of everyone working into commitment/exclusivity on a timeline that works for them, but it needs to happen. Even with my gym routine, I started out with three days per week for a year, then four days per week for a year, etc. and only when I was fully committed did I see the best results.
If a man has caught my attention and I his, we deserve the opportunity to find out what the relationship could or couldn't be. In order to fully consider a relationship and the positives or negatives it could have in my life, I feel the best route is some sort of consistency of involvement on the horizon.
What do you think?*
Is commitment - aka exclusivity- a necessary step in dating? How long have you dated before becoming exclusive with your significant other and others past? Have you ever walked away from a great relationship because the other person wouldn't commit?