Upon discussing the below series of events with this guy, I decided to put this out there for the world to comment.
The other day I was enjoying Cafe Rio with some co-workers for lunch - neither of those two details are typical.
The group got to talking about their favorite restaurants in Salt Lake. I quickly realized they were throwing out names of high-end restaurants - $30-$50/plate places. My turn to contribute to the conversation soon arose.
"Ummm...I've never actually been to any of the better restaurants around here. I'm perfectly happy with Sweet Tomatoes."
"You mean no one has ever taken you on a date to one of these places?"
"No...I'd feel too guilty!"
"You mean to tell me they say, "Let's go to 'Ruth's Chris,' and you say, 'No, let's go to Chili's?!?"
"No, no one has ever suggested eating at a nice place and I would just feel too guilty!"
"Larissa, you are dating the wrong men."
Everyone laughs. Hard.
The thing is, truth be told, I've never dated a man who has a higher salary than me and my favorite place to eat really is Sweet Tomatoes. I don't even know if I've been on a single date with a man with a higher salary. And I don't even make anything more than your average bear! Is this normal? Or as freakish as my co-workers made it sound?
I would feel really guilty if a man wanted to fancy schmancy dinnerize me because I don't want them to be pulling from their budget elsewhere or when logic reasons I should pay (although I certainly don't want to set that standard). But shouldn't I be uber flattered that he is willing to make this huge sacrifice to simply spend time with me?
I do always let them pay and give them that chivalrous opportunity, etc. but I don't think a single occasion has passed that I haven't felt some measure of guilt...but then in return huge measures of gratitude. I guess I shouldn't be too worried - I've made it this long without a man offering to schmancy dinnerize me.
Men, Ladies - what are your feelings on this?