Tuesday, May 3, 2011

The Facebook Experiment

When I decided to deactivate my Facebook account, the act was not premeditated.  I had no plans for what this may accomplish.  All I knew is that I felt it was a good, impromptu, harmless decision.  I did not know if the act would or would not aid my situation, but it wouldn't hurt to try.

Several unexpected things happened:
  1. I don't feel "event envy" so-to-speak.  I don't see all the things everyone else is doing that I'm not and feel jealous or like a slacker for not being there.
  2. I don't feel social overload.  I'm not getting five invites per day to things I may or may not truly want to attend, but I can promise you I felt guilt for every single one of those things I couldn't attend.
  3. The people who truly want my company or correspondence have started e-mailing me, calling me, or texting me.  You mean there is life outside of Facebook?
  4. I am more excited to see my friends.  I have more to say, more to hear, and I've been keeping everything to myself instead of posting witty status updates every two hours.
I listened to a KSL radio report on a  must-read CNN article recently regarding Facebook usage. Apparently, the more you use it to feel connected, the more disconnected you feel (perhaps from not being involved constantly in all the things everyone else is doing?), therefore, the more you have to use it in turn. There is an endless cycle of being disconnected.

I feel a little disconnected without it, but freeeeee from all the guilt of not being able to attend every single activity, free from knowing all my friends have problems I can't help them with, free from knowing the latest gossip that really doesn't matter. Liberating is the word.

BUT, I know I can't stay away forever because too many important tidbits and family communications are spread via Facebook - like sharing magical New York City vacation pictures!

Nice detox though, highly recommended.

1 comment:

Sheldon said...

I'm glad it felt good. You may have to do it more often!