What matters most to you in your relationship?
I've been told, "Make sure they have everything you absolutely cannot live without." Ok, great. I'm easy to please in that arena - worthy (check!), attractive (check!), dear friend (check!). But what if they also have traits you are not so sure you can live with?
I envy my friends who put an end to their single status long ago. Not for the reason you may think. I would not trade my life for anything. I can't believe all of the amazing things of which I have been able to be a part. Wouldn't have it any other way. Definitely embracing all that is my life.
I envy them because I think the older we get, the more logic sets in. When I was younger, there was so much more romance to every situation. Things like college degrees and cleaning habits didn't matter as much as the fact that he adored me and made me laugh. Younglings are more willing to jump in the deep end with the optimistic attitude of discovering what mysteries the future holds. As we progress in life, more and more becomes concrete about our futures and the more we demand/need our partners to have just as much concreteness, so to speak - we no longer appreciate the romance of ambiguity.
Eternity is a long time. A very long time. Is loving someone and laughing with them (and of course fundamental agreements on faith) all that matters?
What has mattered most to you? What has made you realize that the person you are with is the one you not only can't live without for eternity, but also want to live with for eternity?