Does anyone else feel like the idea of romance is often something that is a bit contrived?
A friend's recent engagement started me pondering. I look at photos of many different engagement events, or listen to stories, and think, "Wow...that's kind of awkward."
A trail of rose petals lined with candles leading up to a box on a pedestal? Music playing in the background? Sure it all sounds fine and dandy, but it doesn't make romance. Under anything except the most perfect of circumstances (there is a time and a place), this contrived display makes me uneasy and uncomfortable...very uneasy.
If a man brings me a flower or takes me to a place designated "for lovers," that doesn't make romance.
What is romance to me?
Romance is someone I care about looking at me with that twinkle in their eye - you can't make that up, you can't fake it, you can't hide it.
Romance is that person wanting to spend every spare moment with me, even if all we are doing is reading our own books or sitting on a bench watching nature or running errands.
Romance is when I am sick and he sits with me all day even though he knows he can't cure me, but the thought to be anywhere else would never occur to him.
Romance is giving me a big embrace (I prefer the pick-me-up-and-spin-me-around types) even though I've just come from the gym.
Romance is not being able to hold back a smile every time he sees me.
Romance is remembering something random we have talked about or that an important day is upcoming.
Romance is checking in just to see if everything is okay.
Romance is not being able to keep his hands off of me.
Romance is staying up til the wee hours of the morning caught up in conversation.
Romance is honesty and forthrightness in communication - no games.
Romance is supporting each other in the things you are passionate about.
What is romance to you?