When you have been through a difficult situation, be it a break up, a lost job, a bad audition, how many times have you heard, "Get Over It?"
First of all, let me say I was never under "it," whatever "it" is.
Second, why would I want to "get over it" and forget? Wouldn't the smart thing to do be to take from the experience the gems that will improve my odds and knowledge for the next time I face something similar? Doesn't the thought that we can just get over something with the snap of a finger trivialize our experiences and make us feel silly for ever wanting or trying whatever it was? You are never required to just wipe your hands clean and "get over it."
For this reason, I always counsel my friends with this:
Do not get over it. Learn from it. Use this experience. Remember. Then take those feelings/thoughts and move past it.
That's right. Be more. Learn. Grow. Keep Moving. Move Past It.
After all, isn't life all about moving just one step at a time? Even when all odds are against us and we can't imagine mustering the strength, don't we find we have conquered all when we just keep moving?
I like what you said. However, I'm known to say "get over it" quite often when talking to someone about relevant topics. While I may say get over it, what I really mean to say is "stop holding on emotionally to something that's lost and start living for the present again." I'm all about learning and growing from every experience possible. But I guess my choice of words doesn't always come across as the most understanding.
That girl kind of looks like you...
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