Tuesday, August 30, 2011

Busy Dating

Several of my friends have been lamenting to me lately regarding how busy they are.  They think that perhaps young ladies aren't wanting to date them because they are so busy.

I find myself thinking this same thing sometimes - perhaps I am so busy that young men try and give up or don't try at all.  Then I remember the several that have waited for me or taken a chance with that spare two hours I have here or there.   Those are the ones I end up with.

I stand by my belief that if someone is interested in you, they will find a way to spend time with you.  I know I do.

And anyone I know worth two cents will find time once they meet someone worthy of it.  I've seen this over and over again.

Are you too busy to date?  Not for the right person:-)


Janell said...

I once had a friend say, "I have a friend I want to set you up with, but he finds that girls are always too busy to go out on dates. I'm concerned it might not work out because you're busy."

My response, "I'm always willing to make time for dates."

And it's true. I really am.

He was a nice guy. We went out on one or two dinner dates and had a nice time.

Then I discovered whey girls were "always busy" in his estimation. Why? He tended to call about two or three hours before he wanted to go out. A call at 3 pm, "Hey, I have tickets for a soccer game at 7 tonight, you want to go?" Well, yes, I'm glad you remembered that I soccer is a sport I'm willing to watch, but I have a business dinner at 6. No, I'm not going to "get out of it."

Two or three times of spontaneous date ideas and I was dropped for being "too busy."

There's a difference between being busy and being willing to find time, and being expected to always be ready at the drop of a hat.

Larissa said...

Janell - I have had many an experience with men who do that. I don't understand how people (cause girls do it too) just don't get it.

S.R. Braddy said...

Recently, I've been having trouble even getting to the point where I COULD ask a girl out. Too often, I've tried to make some small talk with a girl that I'd maybe be interested in asking out, only to have them immediately cut the conversation off and walk away.

It's easy to make time for dates, but sometimes you need to make time for small conversations, as well.

Or maybe I'm just repulsive.