Wednesday, July 13, 2011

Can You Be in Love With More Than One Person?

I was conversing with another of my thought-provoking dears and the conversation lent itself to me sharing this quote I'd recently heard:
"If you are in love with two people, go with the second, because if you were truly in love with the first, you would not have fallen for the second."

He pipes in*, "Not necessarily."

"What?  How's that?"  I was somewhat shocked.

"Don't you think you have the infinite capacity to love?"

"Well, yes, but if I truly loved the first person, would I have explored the option and opened my heart to another?"

"I believe it is about making a choice.  We have an infinite capacity to love.  With relationships and marriage it is about making that decision to love and be devoted and faithful to that one person and sticking with that decision."

I have to admit, I like being "contradicted" in situations such as this.  I learned a great lesson.  Life gives us many opportunities for love and we choose what to do with those relationships.

What do you think?

*This conversation is not verbatim, but close enough to get the point across.


S.R. Braddy said...

Your friend is wise.

Anonymous said...

I really couldn't do it one infatuation is enough for me let alone two sexual relationships. I remember speaking to a guy who had forgotten the name of the girl he was going out with so he asked her brother lol what a complicated time he was having.
For the real answer ask these guys
The president of my country has 7 wives and counting he seems happy enough


Vanessa Swenson said...

30 Rock teaches me you can be.

Unknown said...

I think love is different from sexual relationships. And love can be weighted differently than people you would live with and be committed to for the rest of your life. I for sure believe that you can love deeply and for more and more people... but what you do with that love... something entirely different.

† Calatorintimp † said...

never say never