Tuesday, November 23, 2010

I Want You / I Need You

A couple of weeks ago, I received this sweet text: "I can just see so much self-confidence in you. You don't need some guy to make you happy, because you are already. At least, that is what I see when I look at you."

This intrigued me. I don't need a man to be happy, but I want the man I'm with to know he's a great part of my life and I would never want him to feel he isn't desired.

A few days later, a friend shared with me this: "There is a difference between, 'Of all the places I could be right now, I choose to be here with you,' and, 'I can't be anywhere unless I am with you.'

This difference is what makes a man feel wanted and a man feel needed. Apparently most want to feel wanted, not needed.

I'm not quite sure where the line is between the two. As I'm quite sure I've given off both vibes simultaneously to different parties, but it got me started on thinking of ways to continue to improve myself.

On a side note - Google analytics gave me a giggle this morning when I saw the report that someone found my blog by Googling "butt slapping." What the?


Kenedijs said...

I think it depends on the guy. Some have a complex where they want to feel needed all the time, some are completely opposite, and others are half and half. They want to feel wanted and needed. I don't think there is a clear answer as to where a line ism as every line is different.

As for the stats, apparently someone from the United Arab Emirates and Cyprus has been checking in to read my brother's mission blog.

Jon said...

It doesn't just depend on the person, but also depends on the situation. In my opinion, I think most guys would prefer to be needed in lots of ways (as a handyman, breadwinner, etc.) and wanted on other ways (as a lover, companion, etc.).

When did you talk about butt slapping?

S.R. Braddy said...

I think the more pertinent question would be who's searching for "butt slapping."

Larissa said...

That's the best part - I don't think I ever talked about Butt Slapping and I'm not quite sure how that lead to my blog, but I do know that since I typed the official word in my blog, several others have used the search term. Dirty.