Tuesday, April 3, 2012

Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man

"[If a man] hasn't lined up the who he is, the what he does, and the how much he makes in the way that he sees fit, he can't possibly be to you what he wants to be. Which means that you can't really have the man you want. He can't sit around talking with you, or dream about marriage and family, if his mind is on how to make money, how to get a better position, how to be the kind of man he needs to be for you."

Your brain is exploding out of your ears now, right?  Or you are kicking yourself thinking, "I know this, I know this, I know this.  Why do I always convince myself of otherwise?" Wait, there's more. 

"In my experience, these facts don't always sit well with most women. Many of you figure that if a man truly loves you, the two of you should be able to pursue your dreams together. {Uh, no, I never think that....DANG IT...get out of my brain!} Stability is important to you, but you'd rather build the foundation of your relationship together, no matter the man's station in life. This is honorable, but really, it's not the way men work. His eye will be on the prize, and that prize may not necessarily be you if he isn't up to where he wants to be in life. It's impossible for us to focus on the two-- we're just not that gifted, sorry."

Comedian Steve Harvey wrote "Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man."  I shunned the preposterousness of this fella writing a book on dating for quite some time until I read the aforementioned gems on another blog.  She shared, "He goes on to say they don't necessarily have to be completely established or at the end of their road, so long as they are on the track to achieving their goals and they feel secure in their position."

I've often expressed that I feel as if I am always catching men in the middle of their identity crises...and the above pretty much pinpoints the scenario.  

What thoughts do you have on the matter? 


S.R. Braddy said...

Man, I totally agree.

I don't know that it's necessarily gender-specific, though. If a woman doesn't know who she is and expects her partner to help her define herself, then she's going to be just as much a drain on the relationship as the man would.

I wonder if this isn't part of the reason why LDS church leaders stress the importance of marrying young - that way, when two people go through their formative twenty-somethings together, they actually CAN build something together.

Not sure if that's true or not. Just a thought.

Shayla said...

quarter-life crisis...

Larissa said...

Shayla, that article is A-mazing. Thank you!