Thursday, May 28, 2009

He's Just Not That Into You

I'm sure you have all seen the movie, but how about the book?

"He's Just Not That Into You," in my opinion, is a hard-knock of reality pie lambasted in the face of woman-kind in general. You know what else? That pie never tasted so good.

Countless hours have been spent lamenting over the woes of male/female communication with my darlings of the fairer sex. This lunacy will stop.

To sum it all up, when you ask yourself these questions, you now know the answer:
-He's giving all the signals, but not doing anything - what's the deal?
-Why isn't he calling?
-Why isn't he asking me out?
-Why isn't he committing?
-Why isn't he making a move?

He's just not that into you!

The reality is harsh, but if a man likes you enough, he will find a way to ask you out, no excuses. He is not too busy (seriously how long does it take to pick up the phone or send a text), too shy, too damaged, too out of town, or too anything else except too not into you! No matter how shy/busy/scared he is, he will find a way to overcome all obstacles if he is that into you.

Besides, do you really want a man who can't manage his time well enough to find 5 minutes to call you? Someone who doesn't call when they say they will (which by the way means they are definitely not thinking about you)? Someone who is so shy he can't even get over it enough to ask your awesome self out? Someone who has so many issues he can't look past himself? C'mon, seriously - you want that?!? Correct me if I'm wrong, but, don't you deserve more?

Yes, there are exceptions, but for the most part, you need to consider yourself the rule in these types of situations.

So why wouldn't he just tell you he isn't that into you?
Wouldn't you rather pull your teeth out one at a time sans medication than tell someone you know is fantastic that they aren't your kind of fantastic?

Ladies, if he wants you, he will come and claim you.


Anna said...

Larissa- so glad that I know you blog now. Love blogging and if you don't mind I think I might just become a regular reader of yours.
This post. Couldn't agree more. I also blogged about this movie. If you are interested you can read it here

you are fantastic.

Shayla said...

he's just not that into me. Neither is he. Or him. Hmmm...I'm sensing a trend. :) NEXT!

j said...

Just don't assume that if he's already shown interest and you've shot him down (or maybe just not responded very warmly) that he's always going to keep trying.

Jon said...

I agree with Jake. Also, you have to understand that his timetable might not be your timetable. I know some guys that move so slowly almost anyone would think "he's just not that into you." When in fact that's not the case, and he is just too scared of his imagination to build up the guts to make his move.

Larissa said...

Ah, but dear Jon you prove my point. If he WERE that into you, he would overcome his fears and ask you out.

Anonymous said...

that's funny, last I checked women are real people and not prizes that will be claimed when deemed valuable. No thank you, I am not up for auction.

Larissa said...

See the blog "WHY he's just not that into you" to reassure yourself that I do think we are all awesome all the time, no matter what - just waiting for the right person to come along. And, I think it sounds pretty darned awesome to be a prize to be won - who doesn't love prizes?!

The phrase that probably got your goose was, "If he wants you, he will claim you." This is a take-off of, "If you want him come and claim him," from the great "Lord of the Rings" trilogy, taken from Shakespeare.
I always have weird little references to cultural things in my entries that are so obscure people seldom pick up on them, but, since I'm awesome like I previously referenced, I put them in for my own amusement:-)

Jon said...

I still disagree. I guess you've never known a guy to completely idolize a girl from a distance like that. I've known several. His thought process is that there's no way a girl that amazing could ever go for a guy like him. A guy can be head over heels for a girl, and not make a move because he's not willing to risk the emotional heartbreak of finding out she's not into him. This is a guy's way of putting up walls to protect himself. I know you're aware that girls put up walls, so why not guys? He just wants more assurance that you will reciprocate his feelings. Two people could be gaga over each other and never know it because neither is allowing the other person to see how they feel.

It comes down to the same principle for both genders: If a person hasn't given you a clear indication as to whether or not they're into you, then you may have to take a risk and break down your wall in order to find out whether they're "just not that into you" or not.

Jon said...

PS I realize my comments here seem to conflict with my comments on your entry about "I like you because you like me." But it's like this: lots of guys don't like to be chased (thanks for putting it like that Shayla), but they also won't chase anyone who isn't responding to their signals (or at least sending signals of their own).

Larissa said...

Wow Jon - you think about this! I like your last paragraph - both genders just need to grow a pair (metaphorically speaking) and break through their walls. I'm freaked out ALL the time by guys - 117%, but I suck it up and realize I gotta do what I gotta do if I ever wanna get a hunka hunka burnin love!