Tuesday, June 16, 2009

To Hear It From You

Why is it that we have to physically hear rejection when it comes to dating?

I know I posted about how not knowing is sometimes best, but that "sometimes" mostly applies that to fledgling crushes. Once that little crush has turned into a parasitic nuisance, sucking our thoughts day and night, we eventually have to buckle down and figure out if our dreams will be crushed or fulfilled.

Even when we know we don't have a chance with Mister Dreamboat, we have to hear it straight from the boat's horn and sometimes "ship" happens.

Something about hearing this news eliminates the fabricated .01% chance we have so fancifully concocted in our imaginations that he is interested. Any chance is aiding us in our delusional abilities to not get over said young man. How is it we manage to cling with our lives to that .01% chance?!?

Does knowing straight from the source help you be 100% over it?


j said...

Yeah, in the end I think it would be easier if when I asked a girl out, she would say, "thanks, but I'm not interested", rather than "Oh...I have to do something that night." and then I have to wonder, "well should I ask her out again? Or would she rather that I not?"

Anna said...

it is better to know than to wonder...

Christopher said...

Whoever came up with all the mind games that are now linked with dating in the first place?

Wouldn't it be much easier if we just went up to the person and say yes we're interested, and then the other person can reply yes or no?

Was it Newton that said, to every action there is an equal and opposite reaction, or something to that effect. So, is there a direct correlation to the degree of the hurt feelings based upon the amount of time and effort that was put in to try to begin the relationship. I would surmise that if there was a more open dialogue instead of all the mind games, that the loss would not be as emotional because there wasn't the time placed into it.

Would someone please explain the other logic to me if I'm completely off base??

Larissa said...

Ah - it is a simple as the famous third grade notes, "Do you like me? Check yes or no." Too bad we aren't as gutsy as we were in third grade :-)

Mena said...

We cling to that chance because somewhere our spirits KNOW that there's a reason to hope. We will find true love and it will be wonderful. Until we know for sure that it's not with so-an-so, we cling. How else to *know* without hearing it from him?